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That sucks brother. J

Well the video may be fake, but water can be turned from frosty icey cold, into a solid block of ice when removed from a fridge under the correct circumstances. I have had it happen to me numerous times, especially while deployed. J

That's the goal brother. J

I don't need extra length here. Only reason you do that where I live is to bridge bumps. The IQR does that for me already. Come visit sometime and we can go boondocking! I will show ya what the longtrack is really for. Ask J about my hospitality, you will be well taken care of. One of the most hospitable people I have ever met. Very easy going, and very knowledgeable. Not to mention Colorado is BEAUTIFUL!!!! J

I love having my boy play DD. J

Here's hoping brother. J

That sucks brother. Sorry to hear. J

I haz no welder. More concerned about what I can do tricky to make the light look cosmetic and what light it would be. Bolt on is nearly necessary. I only suggest weld because I can see bolt on wiggling loose. Stefan had the right idea, but I was thinking on the top of the bar. Either one solid bar, or two smaller squares on the ends. J Rubber, and loctite helps with that. Very true. J

Just a question of spare scratch right now brother. Already got my ideas in mind for the left sleeve and the back. J

I haz no welder. More concerned about what I can do tricky to make the light look cosmetic and what light it would be. Bolt on is nearly necessary. I only suggest weld because I can see bolt on wiggling loose. Stefan had the right idea, but I was thinking on the top of the bar. Either one solid bar, or two smaller squares on the ends. J

And clear gas too! What about welding a bracket on the back bar behind the cans and mounting the light(s) onto the bar? J

I want to know what you are eating for lunch! I had to chuckle. Hope you are doing well today, bud. I guess I missed something. You can tell me to fuck off if you don't care to share (sometimes we like to keep our personal shit personal, and I can dig that) but I was wondering what happened? I have been in some trouble because of certain habits I have/had, and my tendency to be a tad... aggressive is the word I'll use here. What I have read the past few days makes me believe you might have recently dealt with issues I have dealt with in the past. Alcohol, cocaine, and happy fists have gotten me in some trouble in the past. Fortunately for me I have found didtching the cocaine and buying better whiskey makes me more of a happy drunk. Alcohol seems to be the common problem 'solver' for the moment being. Basically the run down of what has been going on is like this -Un-certainty as to how I would be leaving the Army -Watching my marriage fall apart -Having other people step in to help with everything only to turn their backs for one reason or another -Being put in a tough spot over trying to help two friends who split up because I helped the female side first since she reached out first -Not knowing for certain where I want to move once I am out, just knowing it IS NOT back home I have had substance issues in the past (LONG AGO) and I am doing what I have to to keep those demons gone, among other past issues. I am just finding it difficult to keep the past in the past, and the current issues are making it even more difficult. No I am not trying to be an 'emo' little bitch about it and cry like a 3 year old little girl with a skinned knee. At the same time, I am trying to vent out frustrations at the way things have turned out. I realize the boat I am in is due to situations I have allowed myself to be in and decisions I have made there of. I am not looking for sympathy. Every decision right or wrong in the long run, is one I have made on my own for my own reasons. Now its just figuring out what all these decisions add up to, and where they will take me. It's part of the price a person pays for being a 'I wish I had not done this/that' instead of 'I wish I had taken that chance'. J Well, FWIW... Not sure how long you have been in, but you need to worry about the military and their choice with dismissal, albeit medical, honorable, or dishonorable discharge. I feel that a huge issue with that is government is trying to keep cuts in with discharges. All I can say is, while I know you are not a religious man, I am, and I will be praying for the best. Marriage is a difficult thing. It is born of emotion, and it ends or survives in emotion. I have been married twice. My first wife was killed by a drunk driver, and my second is still with me. We have been together for as long as most people here have been alive. But it is difficult. It is a very shaky relationship. But we have always tried to work on it. What the 2 of you decide to do is between the 2 of you. But a joke I heard, and one which rings true to marriage is: Do you know why the bride smiles as she is walking down the aisle? Because she knows she will never have to give another blowjob in her life. Marriage plays hell with a sex life. I know this is an issue with you. I have dealt with this for years, and in due time things iron themselves out. Is it worth it for you to deal with these times? That is up to you to decide. But the next broad will do the same. I promise you, pussy dries up with a ring. But eventually things work out. People are cunts. I never place my trust or faith in anyone. It may make me seem bitter or angry or resentful, but it is a fact, and at my age I have no time for games. All you can do is be truthful. Be honest and respectful. Always remember that if someone fucks you once, they will fuck you again. Never give a person wiggle room, always stand firm. But always remember, everyone will fuck you if it is better for them to do so. Who mattered most in that relationship? Who approached you first? She did, right? If he was your bro, I could see being there for him in his situation. But like I said above, be honest and respectful. She placed her trust in you, and you moved on her word. You were trusting, and respectful. Don't fuck the person you chose to side with. That person knows you are a respectful and trustworthy person. Good for you for standing your ground, and being man enough to stick to your guns. I'll trust you if you back me. Respect is the most honorable trait a person can have, and you didn't betray that. That is why I am proud to be a Buffalonian myself. We are all about respect. I left Buffalo over 20 years ago. I am glad I did. I love my town, I loved my people... But it is a hole, bro. Move on. Find what you want out of life and decide on your locale from there. Do what will work best for you. I am a dago from Buffalo too. Be who you are, and fuck anyone who doesn't like it. Be yourself, as long as it is not argumentative. I am all about "fuck you" (look at my hair, my beard, my attitude), but my superiors are my superiors. I got my ass whooped if I smarted off to my elders, and my superiors. But I was also taught to be me, and be in charge, if I am given the opportunity to do so. Hopefully some of this is good advice. I have not had it fail me yet. But you are your own man with your own problems. Hopefully some of my words might be of some help, and hopefully you will advance in life because of one suggestion I offered here. Prayers are with you, brother. Ok let's see if I cover everything you said here. First off thanks for the words of wisdom, encouragement and prayers. They mean a lot brother. As for the relationship, she reached out first. She knew she needed someone to talk to. That's what I provided. He is working on trying to fix his issues and fix shit with her. He asked her to 'push me aside' so to speak while he does this. Reason being is he knows I am interested in her and have been for some time. She knows this too. Has a move been made? NO. Would it be made soon? Nope. But he's still nervous. Part of his nervousness is because he 'knows she can do better than me (him)' and such. I am not fucking either, because I REFUSE to choose sides. Its not my place. With my marriage, its not just a lack of sex.Its lack of communication, lack of a desire to do a goddamn thing besides sit on her ass at home, lack of interest in anything besides work home, dinner and maybe a drink or two. Concert? NOPE. Movie? RARELY. It just turned into lil fights here and there and just got about sick of it. We talked about 'fixing' things but no real action on either part. Not to mention, for 'wanting to fix it' and three little words haven't been said for some time. It's just been down hill for some time, and I am sick of letting it drag me down with it. As for my Medical Retirement, its an Honorable Discharge (guaranteed), I still get all earned benifits (VA Home Loan, VA Small Business Loan, etc) only uncertainty is the percentage of Disability from the Army, and the amount from VA. We have ball park guesses and if they are close, it should be a nice percentage just for my knee from the Army (about 20-25%, and then an additional 50% or so from the VA for a total of 70-75%. It still allows me to hold a job, but certainly helps with making certain the more important bills are always taken care of. J

My tolerance isn't quite there. But so be it. J

So tossing the cat around is ok, but we draw the line at abusing the dog? J

Appreciate it brother. Unfortunately its a 'family' tradition to turn to the bottle. I do keep it together enough to where I do not drink every day, I don't drink to 'get drunk and ease the pain' or anything else. As for a hobby, lately I've been doing a lot of photography, but limited daylight and no 'set' makes that a bit of a bitch at times. As for my marriage being over.............it is what it is, and nothing is over till it's over. But I try to see things for what they are, and only a blind man can miss the writing on the wall at this point. J

And the Admin board was because my Commander thought it was better to chapter out someone who has a known history of sleep issues (DEEP SLEEPER) who cannot seem to get that shit right all the time, than to allow him to Medically retire. Add in people perceiving my accent and gestures as an attitude (Predominately Italian, and from Buffalo, NY) and it adds up to being an issue. Sad part is I have ALWAYS gotten along well with the Combat Arms (Field Artillery, Infantry, Rangers, Special Forces) guys like we were brothers from another mother. Get me with a group of Signal pussies, or shit there of, and I am fucked. J

I want to know what you are eating for lunch! I had to chuckle. Hope you are doing well today, bud. I guess I missed something. You can tell me to fuck off if you don't care to share (sometimes we like to keep our personal shit personal, and I can dig that) but I was wondering what happened? I have been in some trouble because of certain habits I have/had, and my tendency to be a tad... aggressive is the word I'll use here. What I have read the past few days makes me believe you might have recently dealt with issues I have dealt with in the past. Alcohol, cocaine, and happy fists have gotten me in some trouble in the past. Fortunately for me I have found didtching the cocaine and buying better whiskey makes me more of a happy drunk. Alcohol seems to be the common problem 'solver' for the moment being. Basically the run down of what has been going on is like this -Un-certainty as to how I would be leaving the Army -Watching my marriage fall apart -Having other people step in to help with everything only to turn their backs for one reason or another -Being put in a tough spot over trying to help two friends who split up because I helped the female side first since she reached out first -Not knowing for certain where I want to move once I am out, just knowing it IS NOT back home I have had substance issues in the past (LONG AGO) and I am doing what I have to to keep those demons gone, among other past issues. I am just finding it difficult to keep the past in the past, and the current issues are making it even more difficult. No I am not trying to be an 'emo' little bitch about it and cry like a 3 year old little girl with a skinned knee. At the same time, I am trying to vent out frustrations at the way things have turned out. I realize the boat I am in is due to situations I have allowed myself to be in and decisions I have made there of. I am not looking for sympathy. Every decision right or wrong in the long run, is one I have made on my own for my own reasons. Now its just figuring out what all these decisions add up to, and where they will take me. It's part of the price a person pays for being a 'I wish I had not done this/that' instead of 'I wish I had taken that chance'. J

No extra parts means you re-built it wrong. J

Not gonna lie, frankentop is kinda bad ass. J

You're telling me. I am doing what I can to eliminate it, and mitigate what cannot be removed. J

Let's just put it this way, the people who made the decision took a look at everything in front of them, and made those who were 'against' me look like fools. I had an AMAZING attorney who could not have done a better job in any way shape or form. The sad part is, the 'prosecution' made a lot of his case for him. I have been stressing over this for months. It was like the weight of the world was removed from my shoulders. I still have a lot of weight there, but it is ultimately more manageable than it has been in some time. J Well I'm glad. Being stressed is the absolute worst. Stress is still present quite a bit of the time. But it is more manageable than it has been in the past. I think at this point I just need three things; to know when my time to leave is, to go home and see my family (basically re-ground myself), and to go visit a good friend for some more therapy. I'd also like to figure out where I am going once done and what I am going to do, but that I can wait on. J

Let's just put it this way, the people who made the decision took a look at everything in front of them, and made those who were 'against' me look like fools. I had an AMAZING attorney who could not have done a better job in any way shape or form. The sad part is, the 'prosecution' made a lot of his case for him. I have been stressing over this for months. It was like the weight of the world was removed from my shoulders. I still have a lot of weight there, but it is ultimately more manageable than it has been in some time. J

I know Stefan and a few other's asked about my Tuesday. I got my request from the administrative review board. I will be allowed to stay in, and move forward towards medical retirement. Hopefully it won't take long, but I know how this process goes. Either way I am ready to deal with what I have to do. One monkey off my back, and about four more to go. Thanks for the support guys!!! J

Well in 30 minutes I leave for my hearing, which takes place in an hour. If they agree with my lawyer and myself I will be getting my medical discharge. If not, its left up to the Commanding General to make a final decision. I am not a 'spiritual' man by any conventional means. For those of you that are, all I ask is that you throw a little something up for me. J

Congrats on your success brother. Looks like the sky is the limit for you!!! J