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Things from the heart I love, material items not at all. Obviously a present could be both but societally it becomes an exercise in panick and compromise yielding pressure to give something that is material in place of something heartfelt. I have received gifts from people on here that are more personal and thoughtful than one could imagine. Those are awesome. So it isn't really I don't like gifts, but I don't like the idea that gifts are necessary on certain days. Out of the blue gifts that have meaning are always welcome and by far the best kind to give.

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This. 100% agree. I would rather someone just spend time with me for holidays, than buy me "something" just for the sake of giving me a gift. I have this argument with my wife around my birthday and Christmas every year. Her family just wants to see me open "gifts" but never take the time really understand who I am so that the gifts have meaning. It's just what they can fit in their budget.