Softer is healthier but many people find they can't get comfortable on a soft bed. I really wish you would have mentioned it a few months back lol. No matter what I say or anyone else says, comfort is most important. The general rule of thumb is to buy the softest bed you can tolerate and spend as much as you can comfortably without hurting your checkbook. Queens under $1000 are made to last 5ish years. For some it's much less. Some brands dont create a durable product until $2000 so it can be a weird place to navigate.
Could have saved you thousands and thousands..... let me know what your looking at and I'll give you an evaluation on the general product. They change the name and layers at each retailer and they are all in a way made to order for the label. I may have be able to get you a deal if you order from one of my old mentees. More than half the people that were at my level were my trainees so I might have some pull. I dont know about TX delivery, but it might work.